Jeff Cook, PhD, LMHC


I have been working in the helping field for 25-years with a focus on physical, social, and emotional wellbeing – working with individuals, couples, and families. I have worked with hundreds of clients in an effort to help them understand feelings of emptiness and despair, to help them make sense of destructive decisions, and to repair broken relationships. Whether we were hurt in our younger years, in our marriage, or as parents, we all experience heartache; it simply is a part of the common human experience. And, at times we find ourselves stuck, unable to move through or past certain experiences and it is in these phases of life that feelings of emptiness, or the experience of shame, or the quiet desperation to feel alive again, consume us. When these experiences are not understood and cared for, they often lead to poor decisions and ruptured relationships. It is within this context that we find ourselves struggling with depression or heightened anxiety, or escalating into a downward cycle of infidelity, sexual compulsivity, or substance abuse, and at this point, we often find ourselves hiding from ourselves and those we care most about. The experience of suffering alone can be intolerable, especially, if we are unsure as to why we are suffering. It is my sense that the pain we experience in life arises within the context of relationship - relationship with ourselves, those we love, and the world around us. And, it is my belief that healing also comes within the context of relationship.  I am a “relational psychotherapist” who works with those who know trauma, broken relationships, and the unbearable experience of shame.  

About Me

I have worked in the helping profession since the early 1990’s, and maintained a counseling practice since 2006.  During this time I have served as Assistant Professor at both Saint Mary’s College and the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater, training graduate students in the art and science of clinical mental health counseling and couples and family counseling. In addition, I served as the clinical director of a large counseling center at the University of Wisconsin – Whitewater, and currently am enjoying both clinical work and work as an Associate Professor of Clinical Mental Health Counseling in the Seattle area.


Doctorate of Philosophy, Counseling (PhD)

Licensed Mental Heath Counselor (LMHC)

Dr. Cook’s Scientific Research Publications

Stauffer, M., Cook, J., Trippany-Simmons, R., & Rush-Wilson, T. (2016).The Many Facets of Human Development: Spiritual and Moral Developmental Theories. In S. Mark & D. Capuzzi (Eds.). Human growth and development across the lifespan: Applications for counselors. Wiley & Sons.

Blackley, S., & Cook, J. (2015). Drug-facilitated sexual assault: From distorted memory to an inability to forget. The Wisconsin Counseling Journal.

Cook, J. (2015). Intersubjectivity as a deepening of the counseling experience. The Wisconsin Counseling Journal.

Cook, J., & Rubel, D., & Pehrsson, D-E. (2013). Integrating emotion regulation into the selection and training of counselors. The Wisconsin Counseling Journal.

Thomas, S., & Cook, J. (2013). Family Crisis. In J. Sandoval (Eds). Handbook of crisis counseling, intervention, and prevention in the schools (3rd ed). Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc.

Cook, J., Berquest, T., & Rubel, D. (2012). Measuring emotional regulation in pre-practicum and internship counselor-in-training: Using the Difficulties in Emotional Regulation Scale. Professional Issues in Counseling.

Cook, J., & Schamp, L. (2011). College career counseling: Traditional, hybrid and 100% online Campuses. In D. Capuzzi, & M. Stauffer (Eds). Career Counseling: Foundations, Perspectives, and Practices (2nd ed).Pearson.

Dr. Cook’s Speaking Engagements

Cook, J. (2017). Sacred trust: Responding to stroke victims. Oregon Veterans Home. The Dalles, Oregon.

Cook, J., & Anderton, C. (2016). Restorative justice: For higher education staff. University of Wisconsin – Whitewater. Whitewater, Wisconsin.

Cook, J. (2016). Taming “it”: Parents, students, and the school counselor. Wisconsin School Counselors. Whitewater, Wisconsin.

Cook, J. (2016). Suicide awareness. Whitewater High School. Whitewater, Wisconsin

Cook, J., Shea, M., & Fritz, N. (2015). An Intersubjective Approach to Couples Counseling. Wisconsin Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Menomonee Falls, Wisconsin.

Cook, J. (2014). The development of emotion regulation in pre-practicum counselors. Western Association of Counselor Education and Supervision. Los Angeles, California.

Cook, J., & Vander Velden, E. (2014). Disengaged parents and the experience of shame. Wisconsin Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Waukesha, Wisconsin.

Cook, J., Rios, P., & Swartwout, A. (2013). Disengaged parenting and the experience of shame. Wisconsin School Counseling Association. Madison, Wisconsin.

Cook, J., & Woodbridge, L. (2013). Conflict and crisis within the family system. Wisconsin School Counseling Association. Madison, Wisconsin.

Cook, J., Thomas, S., & Heid, L. (2011). Relational approaches to working with resistance and rupture:Using case studies to promote self‐ reflection, professional development, and relational transformation among supervisors, therapists, and school counselors. Association of Counselor Education and Supervision. Nashville, Tennessee.

Cook, J. (September 2011). The experience of trauma. Richmond Partnership. Richmond, California.

Cook, J., & McGlasson, T. (2008). Implications of a co-constructed relational field in the therapeutic space: Considerations for clinicians, supervisors and counselors. Western Association of Counselor Education and Supervision. Palm Springs, California.

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