Jeff Cook, PhD, LMHC


Dr. Cook has been working in the helping field for 25-years with a focus on individuals, couples, and families emotional wellbeing. Dr. Cook has worked with hundreds of clients in an effort to understand feelings of emptiness and reactions to stress that disconnect us from ourselves - from our thoughts, feelings, dreams, and needs, and consequently disconnect us from those we love. We find our children suffering and reacting in their own unique ways, and we discover an isolation within our most intimate relationships that gives rise to depression, anxiety, secrecy, substance use, pornography, or infidelity (physically and/or emotionally). Much of Dr. Cook’s work over the years has included those who have experienced some form of trauma that resulted in a life of shame and stunted emotional experience, which has further led to isolating life experiences and heartache.

Over the years Dr. Cook has learned the strength of tapping into intuition and compassion to create a safe space for clients to do the work of reconnecting to themselves and those they love. It is his belief that when clients feel safe, they are more able to explore the underpinnings of their beliefs and life challenges. Dr. Cook believes that in most cases, a person’s beliefs, behavior, and emotions generally make sense, and while they may not be beneficial for the individual or couple, they do make sense. A part of the healing process is understanding this, and then beginning the process of identifying needs, wants and desires that most often go unmet and at times, unrecognized. Often times, the experience of shame, or the felt sense that a person is not good enough or doesn’t matter gets in the way of deepening relationships with self and other. Utilizing the theoretical approach known as Intersubjective Systems Theory (a blend of psychoanalytic, narrative, and family systems theory) Dr. Cook has helped many individuals, couples, and families to find the healing they long for.

About Me

I have been working in the helping field for 25-years with a focus on physical, social, and emotional well-being – working with individuals, couples, and families. I have worked with hundreds of clients in an effort to help them understand feelings of emptiness and despair, to help them make sense of destructive decisions, and to repair broken relationships. Whether we were hurt in our younger years, in our marriage, or as parents, we all experience heartache; it simply is a part of the common human experience. And, at times we find ourselves stuck, unable to move through or past certain experiences and it is in these phases of life that feelings of emptiness, or the experience of shame, or the quiet desperation to feel alive again, consume us. When these experiences are not understood and cared for, they often lead to poor decisions and ruptured relationships. It is within this context that we find ourselves struggling with depression or heightened anxiety, or escalating into a downward cycle of infidelity, sexual compulsivity, or substance abuse, and at this point, we often find ourselves hiding from ourselves and those we care most about. The experience of suffering alone can be intolerable, especially, if we are unsure as to why we are suffering. It is my sense that the pain we experience in life arises within the context of relationship - relationship with ourselves, those we love, and the world around us. And, it is my belief that healing also comes within the context of the relationship.  I am a “relational psychotherapist” who works with those who know trauma, broken relationships, and the unbearable experience of shame.  


Doctorate of Philosophy, Counseling (PhD)

Licensed Mental Heath Counselor (LMHC)

Dr. Cook’s Scientific Research Publications

Stauffer, M., Cook, J., Trippany-Simmons, R., & Rush-Wilson, T. (2016).The Many Facets of Human Development: Spiritual and Moral Developmental Theories. In S. Mark & D. Capuzzi (Eds.). Human growth and development across the lifespan: Applications for counselors. Wiley & Sons.

Blackley, S., & Cook, J. (2015). Drug-facilitated sexual assault: From distorted memory to an inability to forget. The Wisconsin Counseling Journal.

Cook, J. (2015). Intersubjectivity as a deepening of the counseling experience. The Wisconsin Counseling Journal.

Cook, J., & Rubel, D., & Pehrsson, D-E. (2013). Integrating emotion regulation into the selection and training of counselors. The Wisconsin Counseling Journal.

Thomas, S., & Cook, J. (2013). Family Crisis. In J. Sandoval (Eds). Handbook of crisis counseling, intervention, and prevention in the schools (3rd ed). Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc.

Cook, J., Berquest, T., & Rubel, D. (2012). Measuring emotional regulation in pre-practicum and internship counselor-in-training: Using the Difficulties in Emotional Regulation Scale. Professional Issues in Counseling.

Cook, J., & Schamp, L. (2011). College career counseling: Traditional, hybrid and 100% online Campuses. In D. Capuzzi, & M. Stauffer (Eds). Career Counseling: Foundations, Perspectives, and Practices (2nd ed).Pearson.

Dr. Cook’s Speaking Engagements

Cook, J. (2017). Sacred trust: Responding to stroke victims. Oregon Veterans Home. The Dalles, Oregon.

Cook, J., & Anderton, C. (2016). Restorative justice: For higher education staff. University of Wisconsin – Whitewater. Whitewater, Wisconsin.

Cook, J. (2016). Taming “it”: Parents, students, and the school counselor. Wisconsin School Counselors. Whitewater, Wisconsin.

Cook, J. (2016). Suicide awareness. Whitewater High School. Whitewater, Wisconsin

Cook, J., Shea, M., & Fritz, N. (2015). An Intersubjective Approach to Couples Counseling. Wisconsin Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Menomonee Falls, Wisconsin.

Cook, J. (2014). The development of emotion regulation in pre-practicum counselors. Western Association of Counselor Education and Supervision. Los Angeles, California.

Cook, J., & Vander Velden, E. (2014). Disengaged parents and the experience of shame. Wisconsin Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Waukesha, Wisconsin.

Cook, J., Rios, P., & Swartwout, A. (2013). Disengaged parenting and the experience of shame. Wisconsin School Counseling Association. Madison, Wisconsin.

Cook, J., & Woodbridge, L. (2013). Conflict and crisis within the family system. Wisconsin School Counseling Association. Madison, Wisconsin.

Cook, J., Thomas, S., & Heid, L. (2011). Relational approaches to working with resistance and rupture:Using case studies to promote self‐ reflection, professional development, and relational transformation among supervisors, therapists, and school counselors. Association of Counselor Education and Supervision. Nashville, Tennessee.

Cook, J. (September 2011). The experience of trauma. Richmond Partnership. Richmond, California.

Cook, J., & McGlasson, T. (2008). Implications of a co-constructed relational field in the therapeutic space: Considerations for clinicians, supervisors and counselors. Western Association of Counselor Education and Supervision. Palm Springs, California.

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