Dr. Shira Olsen, LPSY, CSAT, CCPS

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

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As an expert in relational trauma, I help individuals work through infidelity, intimacy struggles, and compulsive sex and porn use.  I offer expertise treating both problematic sexual behaviors and the trauma from intimate betrayal.  My perspective encompasses a deep understating of the sexually acting out partner and the hurt partner's experience after betrayal; a knowledge base my clients find invaluable when working with the complex nature of infidelity. 

My clients often feel overwhelmed by their circumstances and are not sure what their next steps should be for themselves or their relationship. It can be exhausting to put on a good face and pretend everything is fine when inside you know you're not okay. You might feel trapped or hopeless that things will never get better.  We will figure out what got you to this point and develop the insight and understanding necessary to make genuine changes.  We will discover what healthy intimacy means to you and help you create a sex life with your partner that is passionate and built on trust. 

I know it can be hard to share how you feel and keeping others at a distance seems easier, but you slowly lose parts of yourself when you shut others out.  Sharing your pain and struggles in a safe, shame-free environment is a positive step towards change.  I can help you reconnect with people without being afraid they will judge you or let you down.  We will silence any voices telling you that you're not good enough or that somehow it's your fault you're unhappy.  There is hope in healing from infidelity and turning problematic sexual behaviors into healthy intimacy.  We can get there together and turn your life around.

About Me

As a Clinical Psychologist (PhD), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), national level trainer for intimate betrayal treatment, and trauma specialist, I have extensive experience helping individuals who have been harmed by infidelity.  I have been fortunate in my career to be able to share my knowledge with the world through my published scientific research on trauma, betrayal, and anxiety.  My research has provided me a deep level of insight into the struggles individuals face after trauma and effective strategies for change. I am also a contributing author to the book Facilitating Resilience & Recovery Following Trauma, which offers evidenced based insight into healing from trauma.  You can learn more about my published research below.


Doctorate in Clinical Psychology (PhD)

     University of Memphis Clinical Psychology Program

     University of Washington Clinical Psychology Residency Program

Licensed Clinical Psychologist (LPsy)

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)

Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS)

Washington State Supervisor

National Level Trainer For Treating Betrayal Trauma

Advanced Training For Problematic Sexual Behavior - Understanding and Treating Betrayal Trauma  (Level 1 & Level 2) Society For Advancement in Sexual Health (SASH)

Dr. Olsen's Scientific Research & Publications

How do negative emotions relate to dysfunctional post-trauma cognitions? An examination of interpersonal trauma survivors. Psychological Trauma Theory Research Practice and Policy.

Exploring negative emotion in women experiencing intimate partner violence: Shame, guilt, and PTSD. Behavior Therapy.

Expressive inhibition following interpersonal trauma: An analysis of reported function. Journal of Anxiety Disorders.

The association of mental health conditions with employment, interpersonal, and subjective functioning after intimate partner violence. Violence Against Women.

How do attachment style and social support contribute to psychopathology following interpersonal trauma? Examining clinician rating versus self-report. Journal of Anxiety Disorders.

Understanding the relationship between Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and trauma cognitions: The impact of thought control strategies. Behaviour Research and Therapy.

The effects of dissociation on information processing for analogue trauma and neutral stimuli: A laboratory study. Journal of Anxiety Disorders.

Factors contributing to anxious driving behavior: The role of stress history and accident severity. Journal of Anxiety Disorder.

The Driving Behavior Survey: Scale construction and validation. Journal of Anxiety Disorders.

Predicting violence in romantic relationships during adolescence and emerging adulthood: A critical review of the mechanisms by which familial and peer influences operate. Clinical Psychology Review.

Physical and psychosocial functioning following motor vehicle trauma: Relationships with chronic pain, posttraumatic stress, and medication use. European Journal of Pain.

If you would like to set up an appointment with me or have questions, please reach out!  I am always happy to chat to see if I'd be a good fit for your needs.