Victoria Heckart, MA, LMHCA, ASOTP, Advanced Doctoral Intern & Psychometrician
I specialize in working with men and women who are struggling with sexual compulsivity, intimate partner betrayal, and sexual functioning. Sexual compulsivity is a complex phenomenon that emerges in diverse ways depending on the unique circumstances of the individual. I’ve worked with men and women whose lives have been derailed as a result of compulsive pornography viewing, sex buying, infidelity, and obsessive thoughts of sex, to name a few. These same individuals commonly struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, attention deficit difficulties, or other addictions in addition to their problematic sexual behaviors. Given the complexity of this clinical presentation, I thoroughly assess for the function of the compulsive behaviors and the underlying drivers. I conceptualize sexual compulsivity as external behaviors that are used to cope with, mask, or avoid internal psychological and emotional pain. Individuals often find that giving into sexual behaviors and preoccupations effectively numb this pain in the short term, only to create deeper issues fueled by feelings of shame, regret, and hopelessness in the aftermath. If you are struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors, we will work collaboratively to heal past wounds, develop workable strategies to eradicate unwanted behaviors, and identify a path towards a meaningful life that includes interpersonal intimacy and a healthy relationship with sexuality.
Infidelity is an incredibly painful rupture in any relationship that often leaves the betrayed partner feeling alone, unloved, and unworthy. If you are a partner suffering from intimate partner betrayal, you may even be experiencing posttraumatic stress symptoms as a result of the earthshattering discovery. I use a trauma-informed approach combined with extensive knowledge of sexual compulsivity to address the overwhelming symptoms, promote insight into the sexually acting out partner’s behaviors, and ultimately create a space for authentic individual and relational healing to occur. The betrayal in a relationship can feel like the defining feature of your story, but it does not have to. My goal in our work together is to give you the tools to begin writing your next chapter with confidence and clarity.
An especially rewarding aspect of my clinical work is the opportunity to work with individuals and couples on cultivating a fulfilling sex life. Common barriers that inhibit a satisfying sex life include erectile dysfunction, lack of desire, arousal or orgasm difficulties, avoidance of sexual activities, sexual trauma, and emotional and sexual intimacy difficulties. If you or your partner are struggling, we can work together to identify the source of the issue, clarify your unique needs as a sexual being, and take concrete steps towards a healthy and passionate sex life that aligns with your personal values.
Master of Arts (MA)
Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate (LMHCA)
Gottman Couples Therapy: Levels I & II Certified
Affiliate Sex Offender Treatment Provider (ASOTP)
I have completed extensive clinical training and research in the advancement of treatment for sexual health issues. I am committed to providing innovative, evidence-based treatment that addresses the unique needs of each individual. I am passionate about using my platform as a scientist-practitioner to advance sex-positive research in the field of sexual health. My previous clinical experience includes working with individuals suffering from severe mental illness, addiction, trauma, mood disorders, and other issues caused by extreme life circumstances. I am currently completing my advanced doctoral internship in clinical psychology.
I am happy to speak with you to see what I can offer based on your needs and goals. Please feel free to contact me to learn more.